Most people find purpose in feeling loved or wanting to love others.
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, “What is it that I’m really needing from this relationship?” More importantly, what messages have I been told about what it means to be loved? The template on relationships (romantic and otherwise) is different for everyone.
The “rush” of falling in love, the pain of feeling scared of losing love, the desperation in wanting something we feel we need to survive. All of this is built on an internal map, a diagram of how you are supposed to experience an interaction (even if harmful), versus what is healthy and sustainable.
Perhaps you are in a loving relationship for many years, and while no catastrophe has occurred, you feel stuck in your connection. You long for something that can once again make you feel alive and energized in your interaction. We change, we evolve, and so does our interests in how we choose to interact within and outside of our relationships. Understanding how to navigate in new waters while still rowing the same boat generally doesn’t work.
My purpose with you (individually or as a couple) is to take a 360-degree view of your life with you. To safely explore ways in which to dissect the underlying distress and rebuild through healthy patterns of thinking and behavior. While my personal journey with sex and love addiction might have some relatability, also know, that the purpose for us is to examine the other side of relationship dynamics, which can include co-dependency, loneliness, compulsions towards needing love, feeling misunderstood, scared to use your voice, desiring connection, or just simply learning how to love ourselves more than anyone else possibly can.
I hope this is an opening for us for discovery. My purpose is to co-create with you and find real, sustainable answers to the weight you have been carrying in your heart.